It’s late, and I am tired after that ROUSING game of Star Trek Monopoly I played with Vance and my brother (I lost.) I’m down to the wire, and I’m not sure I have it in me to write out that touching retrospective I was talking about in yesterday’s post. Oh well, I guess I’ll just talk about what we did.
My brother came over to watch the child, and we went out for a late-ish dinner (After 7, when we usually eat around 5.) I was STARVING. Our first pick was Chuy’s, and of course, this being Round Rock, this late in the week NO ONE wants to eat in their own homes. The wait for a table was 35-45 min. I wanted to cry. I didn’t have a second pick lined up. Luckily, I remembered my second favorite Mexican restaurant, which was considerably less busy. We stuffed ourselves on chips and queso, and I was able to eat 2 bites of each item on my combination platter. My brother ate the rest when we brought it home. I was looking forward to those leftovers, but oh well. I remember it being delicious.
(Tonight was a win for my brother. He won at Monopoly, and he got to eat our delicious Mexican leftovers.)
On the way to the restaurant, Vance and I talked about how when we started dating over 5 years ago, we never imagined we’d be here. I don’t imagine many couples begin any differently, but even 6 months in we had a hard time picturing ourselves this bound together for this long. At first it was all fun and games, with no commitment, but with few distractions keeping us apart, (neither of us were seeing other people) we ended up not wanting to be with anyone else. Before we got married, we had times of tumult, where frustrations and insecurities from past relationships came out and caused insane fights. We clashed (and still do) because we are very alike, both stubborn and really enjoy the feeling of between the one in control.
But here we are! I wish I knew of some secret to our “success” (if you want to call 4 years successful) but I don’t think there is one. I think I’ll just list the things that make us awesome.
1. No one is the bitch in this relationship. As I said before, we both love power, and neither of us are ever really willing to back down for much of anything. It keeps things fair and balanced.
2. Weird gifts. We’re both nerds with stupid interests, and neither of us are very romantic. We show our love not with expensive jewelry and lavish dinners, but with showing appreciation for one another’s weirdness. This year, I got him a Firefly keychain (Serenity), and he got me the aforementioned Star Trek Monopoly game and a crystal growing set. Things we can both giggle over and have fun with. We don’t judge one another.
3. When things get scary, we support one another. I can definitely say that for him. When I am terrified and about to lose it, he is has been right there holding himself together just for my sake. I can only hope I am capable of doing that for him.
These last 4 years have been awesome, and I look forward to the future, which will include a larger family, and success that we could only achieve together. I have said it before, but as hard as it is sometimes, I can’t imagine doing any of these things without Vance by my side.
I am so tired, and I can’t squeeze out another coherent thought. I need to hit the hay, as I have 2 appointments tomorrow, and I have work. It’s going to be rough. Night all.