As parents, I would like to think we all have our questionable ‘habits’ or activities we engage in with our children. Some of us totally let our kids eat ice cream for dinner, or watch 8 hours of tv in a day, or we try to ignore the mess they or may-not have made in the bathroom. Sometimes you are just really hopeful that they are talking their usual nonsense, and it’s just as possible that they are lying as it is they are telling the truth, so you just go right on with your business, even if it’s entirely possible that they did overflow the toilet. Some days we have all had enough, and are willing to let things go. Really, none of us can judge, because the truth is we ALL do it, and anyone who says otherwise is lying through their asses. Come on, moms, LETS UNITE.
I can say a big, fat absolutely to any of the above, except for the ice cream, because my older son is weird and refuses to even try ice cream, but he has been allowed to eat Teddy Grahams and Goldfish for dinner. The point is, sometimes I am tired after taking care of two kids on not enough sleep, and I let my kid do whatever will keep him quiet and happy and not bored. This includes letting him watch whatever it is I am watching, or just not being that discriminating when it comes to what he could end up seeing. My limits are sex/nudity, and extreme violence, for obvious reasons. Beyond that, I feel comfortable with just about everything else. Including drag queens.
Yes, this means I watch RuPaul’s Drag Race in front of my sons. I even let them join in. Yes, I expose them to the glorification of men wearing make-up and TUCKING. What kind of a mother AM I?
In order to understand why I allow this, you have to ask yourself, really ask yourself why would it be wrong for a young child to see any of these things. I don’t really believe a lot of non-religious people who consider themselves “tolerant” ask themselves these questions. And I’m not judging anyone; I didn’t start asking them until very recently.
Go ahead: Being as objective as possible, is there anything really wrong with a man wearing make-up and dresses? How is society being harmed in him doing so? I’m supposed to be okay with men loving other men and with people feeling like they were born the wrong gender, so how is anything or anyone being harmed by a man putting on an extremely entertaining show in drag? I don’t really see how it could be.
Here is my logic when it comes to my kids:
Right now, Deven doesn’t really “get” the difference between boys and girls, so telling him that something is more appropriate for a girl and not a little boy goes over his head. It’s kind-of nice having a kid thats unspoiled by both our biological and societal differences. He has his baby doll that he enjoys dressing, nursing, and changing, imitating what he sees when I care for his little brother. I think it is the sweetest thing I have ever seen, and I am not about to get in the way of him developing any kind of a nurturing side. He also takes more of an interest in how I put on my makeup than he does in how his daddy shaves. He has also asked me for dresses, and I have told him ‘no’ only because I don’t have tiny dresses lying around my house. You know what? He also likes playing with his trucks, and he loves wearing his fireman boots, and he is all about rolling around in dirt. He is as much a typical little boy as anything else. Even if he wasn’t, I want him to develop into a happy, confident, secure person, so it would not help either of us to “correct” any of his behaviors.
I’m not going to shove him in any direction gender-wise, I won’t need to. Biology will take over, his peers will take over, and he will figure it all out on his own.
If my son ever came to me and asked me why those men are dressed like women with big boobies and 20 lbs of make-up on, I would tell him that is their costume and they are putting on a show. Their character wears big wigs and has big hips and is a woman, and it makes other people and themselves happy to see them dance and perform that way. There can’t possibly be anything wrong with that. They’re artists with a very unique medium, and if I’m going to let my son listen to uncensored Korn, Lamb of God, and gangsta rap with me, then I am not going to stop him from watching a bunch of drag queens battle it out on stage.
Just. Plain. Sickening.